Dharma Talks

Grief, Anger and Empowerment:Women Speak (Robert Beatty and Christine Gieben)

NOTE: THE DHARMA TALK BEGINS AT TIME STAMP 01:10:30, FOLLOWED BY STATEMENTS FROM MEMBERS OF THE SANGHA ABOUT THE IMPACT OF THE KAVANAUGH CONFIRMATION HEARINGS DURING THE PRECEEDING WEEK.

THE DHARMA TALK IS PRECEDED BY: GUIDED GROUP MEDITATION, A MOVEMENT PRACTICE (LEAD BY JIM) AT TIME STAMP 00:45:03, ANNOUNCEMENTS, AND A SONG BY KIRSTEN AND DOYLE.

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THE SONG PLAYED BY KIRSTEN AND DOYLE IS CALLED, "DONE", BY FRAZEY FORD. THE LYRICS ARE BELOW:

(WARNING: THE LYRICS CONTAIN EXPLICIT LANGUAGE)

 

[Verse 1]
I was taking every hit from you
You drive-by shooting son of a bitch, and I'm done
Oh whoa, I'm done
Who told you that you could rewrite the rules, and do you
Really take me for a goddamn fool cause I'm done
Oh whoa, I'm done

[Chorus]
And you can drag me out before some authority
If that's what you have to do to feel like you can punish me
But I can't, I can't, I can't, I can't keep the peace anymore
With your dogs, with your dogs, at my door

[Verse 2]
You've been puncing my weaknesses, slandering my name
You spent all your time trying to place your blame, and I'm done
Ohhh, I'm done
I used to think I hold the best parts of me
To sew the holes in your life and the cracks in your seams
And I'm done
Oh whoa, I'm done

[Bridge]
And I'm sorry that you don't like your life
But I fought for my own victories and for the beauty in my life
My joy, my joy, my joy takes nothing from you
No, my joy, my joy, my joy takes nothing from you

[Guitar solo]

[Verse 3]
Well, you criticize my numbers, you hammer out the rules
Wait for me to fuck up, and find yourself some proof
And I'm done
Oh whoa, I'm done
You just soak in the hatred of a sorry line
Yeah, you hide behind decorum and a fake smile
And I'm done
Oh whoa, I'm done

[Chorus]
And you can drag me out before a judge and authorities
If that's what you have to do to feel like you can punish me
But I can't, I can't, I can't, I can't keep the peace anymore
With your dogs, with your dogs, at my door
Well I can't, I can't, I can't, I can't keep the peace anymore
With your dogs, with your dogs, at my door

Sunday, October 7, 2018 Duration: 02:09:26 Type: video
The Power of Lineage: Celebrating Ruth Denison's Birthday (Sept. 29)

NOTE: THE DHARMA TALK BEGINS AT TIME STAMP 01:21:30.

THE DHARMA TALK IS PRECEDED BY: GUIDED GROUP MEDITATION, A TALK AND SLIDE SHOW HONORING RUTH DENISON AT TIME STAMP 00:56:20, A MOVEMENT PRACTICE (LEAD BY JIM) AT TIME STAMP 01:11:10, AND ANNOUNCEMENTS.

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Sunday, September 30, 2018 Duration: 02:16:41 Type: video
We Don't Own Anything

NOTE: THE DHARMA TALK BEGINS AT TIME STAMP 01:12:00.

THE DHARMA TALK IS PRECEDED BY: GUIDED GROUP MEDITATION, A MOVEMENT PRACTICE (LEAD BY JIM) AT TIME STAMP 00:46:50, AND ANNOUNCEMENTS.

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Sunday, September 23, 2018 Duration: 02:05:03 Type: video
Christine Talk: Equanimity (Part 1)

NOTE: THE DHARMA TALK BEGINS AT TIME STAMP 01:09:05.

THE DHARMA TALK IS PRECEDED BY: GUIDED GROUP MEDITATION, A MOVEMENT PRACTICE (LEAD BY JIM) AT TIME STAMP 00:45:10, AND ANNOUNCEMENTS.

NOTE: DUE TO TECHNICAL PROBLEMS, THE END OF THE DHARMA TALK GOT SPLIT OFF INTO A SEPARATE VIDEO. PLEASE SEE PART 2 FOR THE QUESTION AND ANSWER SESSION AT THE END OF THE TALK.

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Christine refers to the "Eight Vicissitudes", also called "The Eight World Winds" or "The Eight Worldly Conditions". They are (in four pairs):

1.  Gain/Loss
2.  Praise/Blame
3.  Fame/Disrepute
4.  Pleasure/Sorrow

     

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sunday, September 16, 2018 Duration: 01:24:43 Type: video
Christine Talk: Equanimity (Part 2)

NOTE: DUE TO TECHNICAL PROBLEMS, THIS FINAL PART OF THE DHARMA TALK GOT SPLIT OFF INTO A SEPARATE VIDEO. PLEASE SEE PART 1 FOR THE GROUP MEDITATION, THE QI GONG MOVEMENT PRACTICE, AND THE BEGINNING OF THE DHARMA TALK.

THIS SEGMENT INCLUDES ABOUT 15 MINUTES OF SMALL GROUP DISCUSSION, WHICH BEGINS AT TIME STAMP 00:02:40 AND ENDS AT TIME STAMP 00:16:00 (DURING THOSE 15 MINUTES, YOU CAN HEAR THE MURMUR OF PEOPLE TALKING IN GROUPS). WHAT FOLLOWS AFTER TIME STAMP 00:16:00 IS A QUESTION AND ANSWER SESSION, WHICH CONCLUDES THE DHARMA TALK.

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Saturday, September 15, 2018 Duration: 00:28:11 Type: video
If There's No Self, Who Makes the Decisions? (Q&A with Robert)

NOTE: THE DHARMA TALK BEGINS AT TIME STAMP 01:10:40.

THE DHARMA TALK IS PRECEDED BY: GUIDED GROUP MEDITATION, A MOVEMENT PRACTICE (LEAD BY JIM) AT TIME STAMP 00:48:20, AND ANNOUNCEMENTS.

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Sunday, September 9, 2018 Duration: 02:09:28 Type: video
So, Why Meditate?

NOTE: THE DHARMA TALK BEGINS AT TIME STAMP 01:09:50.

THE DHARMA TALK IS PRECEDED BY: GUIDED GROUP MEDITATION, A MOVEMENT PRACTICE (LEAD BY ROBERT) AT TIME STAMP 00:54:40, AND ANNOUNCEMENTS.

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THE FOLLOWING ARE REFERENCES THAT ROBERT SHARED DURING HIS DHARMA TALK, SO YOU CAN CHECK THEM OUT, IF YOU CHOOSE ..............

 

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"All the world's a stage,

And all the men and women merely players;

They have their exits and their entrances,

And one man in his time plays many parts,
His acts being seven ages. At first, the infant,
Mewling and puking in the nurse's arms.
Then the whining schoolboy, with his satchel
And shining morning face, creeping like snail
Unwillingly to school. And then the lover,
Sighing like furnace, with a woeful ballad
Made to his mistress' eyebrow. Then a soldier,
Full of strange oaths and bearded like the pard,
Jealous in honour, sudden and quick in quarrel,
Seeking the bubble reputation
Even in the cannon's mouth. And then the justice,
In fair round belly with good capon lined,
With eyes severe and beard of formal cut,
Full of wise saws and modern instances;
And so he plays his part. The sixth age shifts
Into the lean and slippered pantaloon,
With spectacles on nose and pouch on side;
His youthful hose, well saved, a world too wide
For his shrunk shank, and his big manly voice,
Turning again toward childish treble, pipes
And whistles in his sound. Last scene of all,
That ends this strange eventful history,
Is second childishness and mere oblivion,
Sans teeth, sans eyes, sans taste, sans everything."
 
              - William Shakespeare, from the comedy, "As You Like It" -
 
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FOR MORE INFO: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2018/01/when-death-pings/54...

 

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“I Am Not I”

Translated by Robert Bly
 
 
"I am not I.
                   I am this one
walking beside me whom I do not see,
whom at times I manage to visit,
and whom at other times I forget;
who remains calm and silent while I talk,
and forgives, gently, when I hate,
who walks where I am not,

who will remain standing when I die."

 
(Juan Ramón Jiménez, “‘I Am Not I’” from Lorca and Jiménez: Selected Poems. Translation copyright © 1973 by Robert Bly. Reprinted with the permission of Beacon Press.
Source: Lorca and Jimenez: Selected Poems (Beacon Press, 1973))
 

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"The personality does its dance in the light of consciousness"
 
- Robert Beatty -
 

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(Robert retold, in paraphrased form, the story of the Buddha and The Angry Man. The following is a more scholarly rendition of that story, as translated from the Buddhist text)
 
 

The Reviler

Once while the Blessed One stayed near Rajagaha in the Veluvana Monastery at the Squirrels' Feeding Place, there lived at Rajagha a Brahman of the Bharadvaja clan who was later called "the Reviler." When he learned that one of his clan had gone forth from home life and had become a monk under the recluse Gotama, he was angry and displeased. And in that mood he went to see the Blessed One, and having arrived he reviled and abused him in rude and harsh speech.

Thus being spoken to, the Blessed One said: "How is it, Brahman: do you sometimes receive visits from friends, relatives or other guests?"

"Yes, Master Gotama, I sometimes have visitors."

"When they come, do you offer to them various kinds of foods and a place for resting?"

"Yes, I sometimes do so."

"But if, Brahman, your visitors do not accept what you offer, to whom does it then belong?"

"Well, Master Gotama, if they do not accept it, these things remain with us."

"It is just so in this case, Brahman: you revile us who do not revile in return, you scold us who do not scold in return, you abuse us who do not abuse in return. So we do not accept it from you and hence it remains with you, it belongs to you, Brahman..."

[The Buddha finally said:]

"Whence should wrath rise for him who void of wrath,
Holds on the even tenor of his way,
Self-tamed, serene, by highest insight free?

"Worse of the two is he who, when reviled,
Reviles again. Who doth not when reviled,
Revile again, a two-fold victory wins.
Both of the other and himself he seeks
The good; for he the other's angry mood
Doth understand and groweth calm and still.
He who of both is a physician, since
Himself he healeth and the other too —
Folk deem him a fool, they knowing not the Norm."[1]

— Abridged and freely rendered from Samyutta Nikaya, Brahmana Samyutta, No. 2. Verses translated by C. A. F. Rhys Davids, in "Kindred Sayings," vol. I.

 
 

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(The following are two thoughtful comments by questioners at the end of the Dharma Talk)
 
1. "Where is the line between acceptance and apathy"?
 
2. "When you hear a car honking, that is the sound of suffering, and you should feel compassion."
 
 
 
Sunday, September 2, 2018 Duration: 02:03:42 Type: video
The 5 Precepts

NOTE: THE DHARMA TALK BEGINS AT TIME STAMP 01:23:20.

THE DHARMA TALK IS PRECEDED BY: GUIDED GROUP MEDITATION, A MOVEMENT PRACTICE (LEAD BY ROBERT) AT TIME STAMP 00:58:35, AND ANNOUNCEMENTS.

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Tuesday, August 28, 2018 Duration: 02:08:04 Type: video
Gregory Talk: Taking Refuge?

NOTE: THE DHARMA TALK BEGINS AT TIME STAMP 00:57:45.

THE DHARMA TALK IS PRECEDED BY: GUIDED GROUP MEDITATION, A QIGONG MOVEMENT PRACTICE (LEAD BY JIM) AT TIME STAMP 00:34:05, AND ANNOUNCEMENTS.

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Sunday, August 19, 2018 Duration: 02:04:33 Type: video
Life is Difficult: The 5 Hindrances and The Sense of Self

NOTE: THE DHARMA TALK BEGINS AT TIME STAMP 01:09:44.

THE DHARMA TALK IS PRECEDED BY: GUIDED GROUP MEDITATION, A QIGONG MOVEMENT PRACTICE (LEAD BY JIM) AT TIME STAMP 00:49:50, AND ANNOUNCEMENTS.

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Sunday, August 12, 2018 Duration: 02:06:54 Type: video
Changes (Thoughts on Impermanence)

 

NOTE: THE DHARMA TALK BEGINS AT TIME STAMP 01:05:45.

THE DHARMA TALK IS PRECEDED BY: GUIDED GROUP MEDITATION, A QIGONG MOVEMENT PRACTICE (LEAD BY JIM) AT TIME STAMP 00:39:54, AND ANNOUNCEMENTS.

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THE FOLLOWING ARE A SONG AND POEMS ROBERT SHARED DURING HIS DHARMA TALK..............

Bottle of Wine

 

(New Yorker Magazine, Aug. 6 & 13, 2018 issue)

 

By Carl Dennis

 

I like to park a few blocks from the house of my hosts

And walk with my bottle of wine the tree-lined streets,

Anticipating the dinner with friends that awaits me.

A bottle of wine showing not only that I’m grateful

To be included but that I’m eager to do my part,

To offer a gift that won’t survive the evening,

That says I’ve set aside the need for transcendence

And made my peace at last with living in time.

Soon we’ll welcome the evening with a toast.

Soon we’ll be toasting it in farewell

As it starts on its journey into the near past

And then the far. Do the houses I’m passing

Regard me as a creature about to vanish

Into the realm of shadow while they have resolved

To hold their ground? But the bottle I’m carrying

Shows how the past can enhance the present.

The grapes it was made from were plucked and pressed

Seven years ago in a vineyard in Burgundy

According to customs already in place for generations

By the time these houses moved from the realm

Of blueprints and estimates into brick and wood.

The bottle will testify that traditions once honored

Are being adhered to still, with patience, with pride.

And if the past is present this evening, isn’t the future

Present as well in the thought that the ritual

I’m helping to pass along will prove enduring,

That however much the world around it may alter,

Guests will still perform it in eras to come?

I hope I feel their presence in spirit

Under these trees later this evening

As I walk back to my car with empty hands.

 

    Carl Dennis published his most recent book of poems, “Night School,” this year.

 

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Changes (By Carol King)

Gordon Lightfoot

Sit by my side come as close as the air

Sharin' a memory of grey

And wander in my words

And dream about the pictures that I play

Of changes

Green leaves of summer turn red in the fall

To brown and to yellow they fade

And then they have to die

Trapped within the circle time parade

Of changes

Moments of magic will glow in the night

All fears of the forest are gone

For when the morning breaks

They're swept away by golden drops of dawn

Of changes

Passions will part to a warm melody

As fires will sometimes turn cold

Like petals in the wind

We're puppets to the silver strings of souls

Of changes

Your tears will be trembling now we're somewhere else

One last cup of wine we will pour

I'll kiss you one more time

And leave you on the rolling river shore

Of changes

 

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 Thus should you look upon this changing world.

All component things are impermanent.

All component things are subject to dissolution.

See all of this world

As a star at dawn, a bubble in a stream,

A flash of lightening in a summer cloud,

A flickering lamp, a phantom and a dream

 

Buddha

 

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The Time of Our Lives

 By Tony Taccone

 

This, then, is what we are given.

 

ten or twenty thousand days

wherein we watch

a billion leaves

born then blush, fall

turn to earth, to silt,

to ash so soft

it will not bear a name.

 

from this black dust

we make our things, clothes

shelter, jewlelry

fiction--

 

stories in which

we seek conclusion,

our highest

and most dangerous invention.

 

for this culling of days

this harvest of dust

gathers meaning only

by our watching, our being,

 

our sensation of

what is forever being given—

that our bodies

are really only leaves seeking light

 

loved at last

by the wind

 

Sunday, August 5, 2018 Duration: 02:07:56 Type: video
Doyle Talk: How to Meditate Before Meditating

NOTE: THE DHARMA TALK BEGINS AT TIME STAMP 01:00:07.

THE DHARMA TALK IS PRECEDED BY: GUIDED GROUP MEDITATION, A QIGONG MOVEMENT PRACTICE (LEAD BY DOYLE) AT TIME STAMP 00:37:02, AND ANNOUNCEMENTS.

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Sunday, July 29, 2018 Duration: 02:03:17 Type: video
Questions and Answers

NOTE: THE DHARMA TALK BEGINS AT TIME STAMP 01:16:40.

THE DHARMA TALK IS PRECEDED BY: GUIDED GROUP MEDITATION, A QIGONG MOVEMENT PRACTICE (LEAD BY JIM) AT TIME STAMP 00:54:20, AND ANNOUNCEMENTS.

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Sunday, July 22, 2018 Duration: 02:15:18 Type: video
Kate Talk: Against The Stream - Being on the Dharma Path

NOTE: THE DHARMA TALK BEGINS AT TIME STAMP 01:00:55.

THE DHARMA TALK IS PRECEDED BY: GUIDED GROUP MEDITATION, A QIGONG MOVEMENT PRACTICE (LEAD BY JIM) AT TIME STAMP 00:36:10, AND ANNOUNCEMENTS.

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Sunday, July 15, 2018 Duration: 02:03:05 Type: video
Gregory Talk: On Doubt

NOTE: THE DHARMA TALK BEGINS AT TIME STAMP 01:08:00.

THE DHARMA TALK IS PRECEDED BY: GUIDED GROUP MEDITATION, A QIGONG MOVEMENT PRACTICE (LEAD BY JIM) AT TIME STAMP 00:35:44, AND ANNOUNCEMENTS.

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Sunday, July 8, 2018 Duration: 02:07:57 Type: video
Love-Based Activism: The 12 Steps of Dependent Origination As A Model for Skillful Action

NOTE: THE DHARMA TALK BEGINS AT TIME STAMP 01:03:25.

THE DHARMA TALK IS PRECEDED BY: GUIDED GROUP MEDITATION, A QIGONG MOVEMENT PRACTICE (LEAD BY JIM) AT TIME STAMP 00:39:25, AND ANNOUNCEMENTS.

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(Below are poems and quotes and interesting highlights from the Dharma talk.)

 

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A Ritual to Read to Each Other

By William E. Stafford

If you don't know the kind of person I am
and I don't know the kind of person you are
a pattern that others made may prevail in the
           world
and following the wrong god home we may miss
           our star.
 
For there is many a small betrayal in the mind,
a shrug that lets the fragile sequence break
sending with shouts the horrible errors of
          childhood
storming out to play through the broken dike.
 
And as elephants parade holding each
          elephant's tail,
but if one wanders the circus won't find the
          park,
I call it cruel and maybe the root of all cruelty
to know what occurs but not recognize the fact.
 
And so I appeal to a voice, to something
         shadowy,
a remote important region in all who talk:
though we could fool each other, we should
         consider—
lest the parade of our mutual life get lost in the
dark.
 
For it is important that awake people be awake,
or a breaking line may discourage them back to
          sleep;
the signals we give — yes or no, or maybe —

should be clear: the darkness around us is deep.

 

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The unexamined life leads to a fate. The examined life leads to a destiny.

(Based on the quote by Carl Jung: "Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.")

 

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"The I that I know does not know enough to know that it does not know enough."

From the book, Why Good People Do Bad Things: Understanding Our Darker Selves, By James Hollis

 

 

Sunday, July 1, 2018 Duration: 02:02:52 Type: video
Refugees, Compassion and Engaged Dharma

NOTE: THE DHARMA TALK BEGINS AT TIME STAMP 01:02:35.

THE DHARMA TALK IS PRECEDED BY: GUIDED GROUP MEDITATION, AN ANNOUNCEMENT ABOUT THE WHEELCHAIR RAMP FUND AT TIME STAMP 00:44:15, AND A QIGONG MOVEMENT PRACTICE (LEAD BY JIM) AT TIME STAMP 00:50:45.

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THE SONG ROBERT AND KIRSTEN SANG IS AT TIME STAMP 01:17:08

"DEPORTEE" (BY WOODY GUTHRIE)

The crops are all in and the peaches are rotting
The oranges are filed in their creosote dumps
They're flying 'em back to the Mexico border
To take all their money to wade back again
Goodbye to my Juan, farewell Roselita
Adios mes amigos, Jesus e Maria

You won't have a name when you ride the big airplane
All they will call you will be deportees

My father's own father, he waded that river
They took all the money he made in his life
It's six hundred miles to the Mexico border
And they chased them like rustlers, like outlaws, like thieves
The skyplane caught fire over Los Gatos Canyon
The great ball of fire it shook all our hills
Who are these dear friends who are falling like dry leaves?
Radio said, "They are just deportees"
Is this the best way we can grow our big orchards?
Is this the best way we can raise our good crops?
To fall like dry leaves and rot on out topsoil
And be known by no names except "deportees"

Sunday, June 24, 2018 Duration: 02:12:08 Type: video
Father: Forgiveness, Gratitude and Accepting Reality

NOTE: THE DHARMA TALK BEGINS AT TIME STAMP 01:10:45.

THE DHARMA TALK IS PRECEDED BY: GUIDED GROUP MEDITATION, A QIGONG MOVEMENT PRACTICE (LEAD BY JIM) AT TIME STAMP 00:55:15, AND ANNOUNCEMENTS.

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NOTE: ROBERT READ BOTH OF THE FOLLOWING PIECES DURING HIS DHARMA TALK

 

 "My father was the second oldest of seven children. His smother died of a brain tumor when he was seventeen. His father, a violent alcoholic who had beaten his wife, promptly abandoned the children.  The younger ones were placed in foster care or in the Catholic Home for Working Boys. My dad kept track of them all, hoping to bring them together under one roof someday. He never did.

 "My grandfather held an inexplicable grudge against my father. He would mail Dad postcards from seaports around the world that read, “Dear Jim, I’m alive, no thanks to you.” Toward the end of his life, my grandfather lived on the street in New York City. My dad paid the owner of a flophouse my grandfather frequented to make sure his father always had a meal and a bed. My grandfather died in that flophouse, of tuberculosis, sometime in the thirties.

"My father did not tell me these stories until I had kids of my own. By then I was mad at my dad because his own drinking had made out home a scary place for me as a child. I was mad at my mom because she’d been so passive, hardly ever getting out of bed. I was mad at my brother for leaving home and never looking back. I was mad at my sister for being everyone’s favorite. I felt the world owed me one big apology.

"My mom had plenty of time to apologize as she lay dying, but she didn’t. My dad didn’t apologize for his drinking, but he did get sober; that was apology enough for me. It was a pleasure to listen to him hum a tune as he stood on a ladder in my house, making electrical repairs for me and the kids.

"I am older now and have learned what a mistake it is to wait around for people to apologize. A wise person once said that holding on to anger is like eating rat poison and expecting the rat to die.

"No longer do I look down on people who offend me, extending forgiveness from my lofty perch. I understand now how limited we all are by circumstances, time place, history and luck. We humans are a frail lot; compassion seems to be the only thing that saves us."

 

-- Kathy Kelly, Florence Mass. The Sun, February 2005 --

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A Father and Daughter

she wakes up to the sound of crying.
muffled in the darkness.
she takes tentative steps to the room upstairs.
its her father.
bottles on the floor,
cigarette in his hand, the room is subdued, smokey.
she turns to leave, as silently as she walked in,
he whispers 'i'm sorry'
tears flow freely, streaking her cheeks
she runs to hug him.
four years later, and theyre still hugging.
they still cry together
but now they can laugh together
take trips together
play cards together,
friends as well as family.
they live in a small brown house,
it was so cold
so empty.
she still cries on her own
so does he.
he has a son who can't be with him,
who feels guilty for loving him
a wife that despises him,
but a daughter who can't live without him.
he's her rock,
her saviour,
her knight in shining armour.
she is the light of his life,
the apple of his eye,
his second chance,
his path to redemption.

-- Elsa Brooks --

Sunday, June 17, 2018 Duration: 02:05:42 Type: video
Stages of Enlightenment; Transforming Desire and Aversion

NOTE: THE DHARMA TALK BEGINS AT TIME STAMP 01:17:25

THE DHARMA TALK IS PRECEDED BY: GUIDED GROUP MEDITATION, A QIGONG MOVEMENT PRACTICE (LEAD BY JIM) AT TIME STAMP 01:00:35, AND ANNOUNCEMENTS.

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Sunday, June 10, 2018 Duration: 02:14:12 Type: video
Enlightenment and Awakening: What is Insight Meditation?

NOTE: THE DHARMA TALK BEGINS AT TIME STAMP 01:06:40.

THE DHARMA TALK IS PRECEDED BY: GUIDED GROUP MEDITATION, A QIGONG MOVEMENT PRACTICE (LEAD BY JIM) AT TIME STAMP 00:53:09, AND ANNOUNCEMENTS.

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Sunday, June 3, 2018 Duration: 02:08:26 Type: video